The Politics of Prioritization in Matchmaking

A fundamental success concept underlies both politics and matchmaking: Prioritization of traits that are most important to you can help select the right presidential candidate and the perfect match. Your specific values and goals must influence your priorities.

The closely watched presidential debates, as evidenced by record-setting TV viewership, have focused on a litany of national and international policy items, including the economy, healthcare, veterans affairs, women’s rights, immigration, global warming, and terrorism. But those election issues cannot be all things to all people. Prioritizing them is necessary to determine the right candidate for you. Matchmaking is no different.

“All this wishing has led to a case of wanting everything and getting nothing,” writes Dr. Ty Tashiro in his captivating first book, “The Science of Happily Ever After: What Really Matters in the Quest for Enduring Love.” Dr. Tashiro serves as the Chief Science Officer at Connectidy.

Connectidy ranks the most important traits with you so that you do not eliminate people who may be compatible. Before you can make positive changes in your life, you need to decide what is most important to you, and define what you absolutely must have in your life in order to be content, and what things you can do without.

When you can mentally separate your priorities and engage based on those priorities, you will reap many benefits. Prioritization should dictate the matchmaking process by establishing why we behave the way we do and what priorities make us tick. Dr. Tashiro, an acclaimed relationship psychologist, cogently explains, “People want to prioritize their most important traits.”

Consider what three traits form at the top of your list: Do you want to align yourself with someone who is trustworthy, communicative, ambitious, religious, humorous, patient, respectful, passionate, intelligent, etc.? Connectidy will help you prioritize these and other qualities through emotional intelligence in order to best evaluate those spot-on choices that work well for you.

To throw in the kitchen sink to see what sticks will not bring people closer to personal or professional joy. Online filters are fine but Connectidy works in a way that people do not need to get rid of other valuable, good traits in order to find the right match for them. Filters are the norm on other online matchmaking sites but people should look at them as preferences rather than “rule out” criteria.

Connectidy makes members successful by ensuring awareness of one’s distinctive emotional intelligence. Connectidy reconciles ambiguous and even self-contradictory data so that you can learn about the right matches for you and further refine whether your priorities are in accordance with your emotional intelligence.

Matchmaking – much like electing the next Leader of the Free World – should be about learning to remove the undesirable traits and rethink one’s views about what really matters. Priorities drive smarter decision-making.

The modern matchmaking landscape that Connectidy is founded upon allows people to reason and react realistically based on prioritization. Narrowing focus can be quite liberating – and triumphant.